Relocation Depression is a Real Thing

By Julie DeLong, A-1 Freeman Moving Group 

Real dialogue here. Moving to Tulsa to a new home is demanding under the best circumstances. You're exiting your house--where you've made a life for yourself and your loved ones--and beginning once more in a strange area. Indeed, the move alone is exhilarating--an adrenaline rush which goes on for weeks or months during the time you find a new residence, load up the old one, and become settled with your loved ones into their new schedules. 
 
Yet after the boxes are unpacked and you have established the best route to the dry cleaners, the new truth sets in--you are in a new location, and your friends and social life are back in your old location--the area you still dream of as "home". And everything appears off kilter--there's a feeling of being out of place, and you are unsure whether it's an actual or emotional place, but it's just not right. It isn't home.

These symptoms might be more than the post-move doldrums. It's possible that you have something called "relocation depression". Relocation depression is a real thing--the onset is after pretty much all the hubbub of the move simmers down--and needs to be considered seriously and addressed in the event that you can't get rid of it on your own.  

Indicators to Watch For

These are generally several of the indicators to watch out for, the appearance of some of these in a couple of week span indicates it's time to acquire some professional help. 

You Simply Can't Get Out of Bed 

And once you do, you are lethargic and really don't have the vitality to get through your day. Sleeplessness can be another symptom of depression; you may be worn out all the time, but you cannot go to sleep. Or it is possible to sleep--a dozen hours at a time and you are still drained. 

Lack of Interest in Anything 

In your former home or community, you had your routine along with your stuff--work, friends, interests--that loaded your weeks. Now, you have work, but your friends didn't come with you and it's difficult to be passionate about your pastimes if, much like a third-grader, you do not have anyone to play with. Grownups needs buddies too, so do not feel bad or guilty that you're a bit lonely. 

In case you cannot get interested in anything--activities, work, finding new buddies, interacting with family--odds are it's a symptom of depression. Combined with the blahs comes being unable to focus--if something could get your consideration, it wouldn't keep going but a few minutes and you would zone out. 

Disinclination to Leave the Residence 

The new house is your safe place, and you just don't wish to leave it. Besides, you've got TV shows for binging, and social media to check. Social media is often a double-edged sword in that it lets you stay up with buddies, but it can also support and abet in your remaining in rather than finding new friends.  

How you can Combat Relocation Depression

There are certain things you can do to lift the haze, so try these and pay attention to if you feel better. 

Get Some Exercise--Active individuals feel better, so get out and just go walking a couple of times every day. If you have a dog it's a built-in excuse to get outside. Expand that outdoors time each day. 

Scale Back or Do away with Alcohol--This is a depressant, so it will be best to refrain from it until you are feeling better. 

Connect with People--Take a course or enroll in a newcomers group. Volunteer--extra hands and capabilities are frequently welcome. Just one or two new contacts creates a big difference. 

Consider Something New--Go to museums, coffee houses, theater, restaurants--explore your new town and get to know it. Staying occupied is much like exercise--it keeps the excitement moving along and you'll have far more energy. 

In case these solutions really don't help, locate a counselor. Relocation depression is no scam, and not dealt with, can spiral into something even more serious. You know yourself better than anyone, and when things aren't quite right, focus on your body and mind. Moving to Tulsa is one of life's most nerve-racking events, nevertheless it doesn't have to be a source of gloominess or depression.

 

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